Avoiding Vaginal Tearing During Birth; an urgent suggestion for planning parents
Over the past couple months, two people in my life have given birth, which is not something I’ve been immediately socially present for previously (ie, checking in regularly about the pregnancy progressing and getting news of the delivery directly, including some post-delivery pictures from one very frank friend).
And, 100% of my sample (so, both) involved getting stitched back up after a difficult delivery. One needed only one stitch which is considered like, normal or lucky or whatever, is my impression. The one who sent pics had the taint tear the whole way to the butthole. I’ve read also that some people have the tear go the other direction and it damages the clit and they lose all or a lot of sexual functionality.
This horrified me.
But I have come up with a preventative suggestion, based off 3 factors: 1) my own vaginal opening is such that I need to stretch carefully to take most toys of regular-or-larger human dick size (girthwise). 2) I’ve stretched my ears in past to have wide enough holes to stick a finger through, and also let the holes shrink back down…I’ve done a decent amount of reading about safely gauging ear piercings, which are actually a lot like pussyholes, in the opinion of someone who has had both; they are similar in capacity for tearing, infection, etc, if you try to jam something huge through when the capacity to take it hasn’t been built up. 3) I like anal play, and everyone who has ever done any in a reasonable and enjoyable manner knows, “start with the cobra” which is to say, to begin things, go small! You can’t just expect a traffic cone to fit in there up to the base with no prep and no plan……BUT there are people who CAN and DO take traffic cones, with preparation and planning….(here is a screenshot of a porn site demonstrating that yes, people do this).
Safe fisting technique factors in here too.
My suggestion is: get the hole big enough for a baby to pass through in advance of the baby passing through it…..use spacers, gauge up to something the same size youre expecting to push out of it.
Please!!!!!! 🙏
Look into wide insertion fetish technique advice, there are people taking on like, melons and stuff like giant butternut squashes, that’s what you want here. It (the opening) will shrink back, because they tend to…..maybe slightly easier to do it again, but, consider the alternative…..it’ll become the same size much more suddenly and less easily and comfortably and have to shrink down again all the same but with stitches and scar tissue and massive pain…. it’s much less life threatening, less clit threatening, etc to just practice beforehand and get things ready.
This is my advice on the topic, I would urge anyone reasonable (like this guy) to look into these links and spread the info that it applies to giving birth and is much better than getting all torn up.
Peace and good health, reasonable people! ☮️⚕️
ETA:
Here is a bit of a conversation I recently had with a close friend…reads left to right page by page horizontally, not in vertical columns. The tl;dr is, she was raised by small-town Christians and is my source for this information about a bunch of religious fashy people (so, certainly also people within the medical system, they’re everywhere) thinking this isn’t a bug but a feature, this avoidable vaginal splitting phenomenon:
Get that tot into martial arts, kiddo!
….meanwhile every psychopath with a baby farming plan forgets that babies are a lot of work and so is keeping a captive or captives alive. The fraternal order of “well, we could just lobotomize the lot of you” forgets they can’t actually do all the work they would be making for themselves…and they can’t trust the robots, ask any of them how upsettingly woke chatGPT et al are. When they lobotomize the robots the robots stop being useful themselves. Also, when do they lobotomize the AFAB babies? Do they have to carry these brainless teens around in giant papooses? Or do they get covered in super sexyyy bedsores? What about all the dudes who want relationships like in American Hustle, dudes who would never get on board with this shit?
Anyway! Just got sidetracked from interviewing about “original sin” concepts as put into practice, but the gist is there. (Again, it’s not that the overlords think gay people are pedos/groomers, it’s that they know we aren’t).
Post seen on instagram this morning, reading “tell me one thing about women’s health you wish you knew sooner”
A response I just wrote and will transcribe here both for my own future use and for anyone who wants to infobomb with the same item: “wide insertion fetish technique help people have things the size of babies go in and out of the various holes without tearing, and vaginal tearing during childbirth is a manufactured epidemic premised off misguided biblical interpretation about ‘every woman is an echo of eve and should therefore be punished with agony or even death during childbirth.'”